Oh Jo, I was reading this and wanted to go and sit with that lady in the tent, I got so engrossed I thought it was really you. I haven't had the terrible grief caused by the death of a partner but I am still struggling from the loss of my parents very close together in 2021 which sounds ridiculous when compared to the loss of a husband. We obviously all grieve so differently, despite what they say about those 5 stages of grief. Even once it has been accepted it never really goes away and that's OK as of course that person will always be in our hearts. If I ever win the lottery I promise I will give you the money to go and stay in that nice hotel. x I hope you have a lovely Easter weekend.
Thank you so much Lindsey for your very lovely thought. Maybe we can go together when I win the lottery 😁.
The Kubler Ross five stages of grief were actually written for people who were terminally ill and facing their own death, rather than those experiencing loss themselves. They have been 'hijacked' as a way of explaining bereavement. It is so messy and there is no handbook. We all do it our own way. 😘😘😘😘
Oh that's interesting, I didn't know that. You learn something every day, Jo, which is always a good thing! x And I haven't said a proper thank you to for your kindness, I don't know what to say really, apart from thank you from the bottom of my heart.x
I don't think there is a wrong . . . or right . . . way to deal with grief. Even while stuffing it, we are dealing with it on some level. Perhaps setting up the ground work for the devastation to follow.
My soulmate didn't die. He left. And I had 3 kids to raise. I only allowed the pain to exist in a very small window when the kids weren't at home. It was excruciating and I was very thankful we had no neighbor on my bedroom side of the house. They probably would have called animal control thinking an animal was dying in there.
We do what we must to survive and survive you have. In your own way, on your own terms and in your own time. I admire and applaud you for taking steps to move on and move out of your cocoon into the scary world once again. 🫂
There are so many ways of dealing with grief it is not a linear process that has a handbook. I suppose I wrote this story as my ideal for dealing with grief. But unfortunately I can’t afford the hotels nor can I put a tent up. Lockdown was helpful in some ways. ❤️❤️
Love this story…wish it was real…the part about good money! 😂 It’s been ten years for me as a widow…being angry, sad, lonely still pop in at times. But busyness is how I got thru the first few years. Self protection I guess. Going to check on your chat…thanks for doing this! 😊🩷
Great post! My husband died 13 years ago. Those words still stun me. We all stumble our way through the grief. We fall and we rise. There is no right way or wrong way, just the way that helps give you the strength to face another day. 💛
Thank you Nancy, I loved writing this story. I would like to say it was autobiographical but my grief was processed in a very different way. I have now learnt that it is ok to still have days of grief and sadness, sometimes even devastation, 6 years after John’s death and 3 since Sarah died. ❤️❤️
Oh gosh, Jo - I loved this post but it tugged me in all directions. Thank you for such a terrifically thought-provoking read about not just grief but so much more.
(Oh, and your first experiences of camping? I can soooooo relate....!)
Oh Jo, I was reading this and wanted to go and sit with that lady in the tent, I got so engrossed I thought it was really you. I haven't had the terrible grief caused by the death of a partner but I am still struggling from the loss of my parents very close together in 2021 which sounds ridiculous when compared to the loss of a husband. We obviously all grieve so differently, despite what they say about those 5 stages of grief. Even once it has been accepted it never really goes away and that's OK as of course that person will always be in our hearts. If I ever win the lottery I promise I will give you the money to go and stay in that nice hotel. x I hope you have a lovely Easter weekend.
Thank you so much Lindsey for your very lovely thought. Maybe we can go together when I win the lottery 😁.
The Kubler Ross five stages of grief were actually written for people who were terminally ill and facing their own death, rather than those experiencing loss themselves. They have been 'hijacked' as a way of explaining bereavement. It is so messy and there is no handbook. We all do it our own way. 😘😘😘😘
Oh that's interesting, I didn't know that. You learn something every day, Jo, which is always a good thing! x And I haven't said a proper thank you to for your kindness, I don't know what to say really, apart from thank you from the bottom of my heart.x
I don't think there is a wrong . . . or right . . . way to deal with grief. Even while stuffing it, we are dealing with it on some level. Perhaps setting up the ground work for the devastation to follow.
My soulmate didn't die. He left. And I had 3 kids to raise. I only allowed the pain to exist in a very small window when the kids weren't at home. It was excruciating and I was very thankful we had no neighbor on my bedroom side of the house. They probably would have called animal control thinking an animal was dying in there.
We do what we must to survive and survive you have. In your own way, on your own terms and in your own time. I admire and applaud you for taking steps to move on and move out of your cocoon into the scary world once again. 🫂
There are so many ways of dealing with grief it is not a linear process that has a handbook. I suppose I wrote this story as my ideal for dealing with grief. But unfortunately I can’t afford the hotels nor can I put a tent up. Lockdown was helpful in some ways. ❤️❤️
Love this story…wish it was real…the part about good money! 😂 It’s been ten years for me as a widow…being angry, sad, lonely still pop in at times. But busyness is how I got thru the first few years. Self protection I guess. Going to check on your chat…thanks for doing this! 😊🩷
Thank you very much for your kind words Joan. You are right grief is always with me ❤️❤️
Great post! My husband died 13 years ago. Those words still stun me. We all stumble our way through the grief. We fall and we rise. There is no right way or wrong way, just the way that helps give you the strength to face another day. 💛
Thank you Nancy, I loved writing this story. I would like to say it was autobiographical but my grief was processed in a very different way. I have now learnt that it is ok to still have days of grief and sadness, sometimes even devastation, 6 years after John’s death and 3 since Sarah died. ❤️❤️
Oh gosh, Jo - I loved this post but it tugged me in all directions. Thank you for such a terrifically thought-provoking read about not just grief but so much more.
(Oh, and your first experiences of camping? I can soooooo relate....!)
😘