I know I said I was going to give you all a break from the head rabbit 🐇 and Linney eccentricities but this week has been a bit odd to say the least, therefore here I am recounting my odd week.

Firstly the case of the missing tooth. I never knew eating a Caesar salad could be so dangerous. Bear with me and all will become clear. 35 years ago I bent down to pick my toddler son up, just as his head came up, I always thought toddlers had soft heads, not this one. I felt the sharp pain of a tooth, my left lateral incisor, taking the strain, but after a while it settled down into comfortable minor wobbliness. Yes, number one and only son, I am blame you.

Fast forward thirty odd years, countless dental x rays and dentists saying ‘it’ll have to come out’ with me resisting it's demise at every stage as it's wobbliness slowly progressed over the years. The final hygiene treatment 3 months ago was crunch time, I had to accept the end of said tooth was nigh. The dentist was lovely and tried very hard not to increase the wobbliness but pointed out the plaque between my teeth was the only thing holding it in. Nonetheless he tutted with a new comment ‘it's a choking risk’ to try to get me to get it pulled out. I left realising the enormity of what was being said and knowing the writing was on the cards. I had become very attached to the tooth - no I hadn't named it. Over the coming months I kept catching the tooth on my bottom jaw and had to push it back into place and there was no way I could deny it's wobbliness.

The end occurred last Tuesday when I was out for dinner with a friend. I have decided eating and chatting is clearly dangerous. Happily chewing on an anchovy and grumping about something or other, I suddenly, felt my lower jaw catching the tooth and pushing it right back. I felt like I was 7 years old again using my tongue to get under a wobbly milk tooth. However, I could not push it back with my tongue so gave it a quick yank, and there is was in my hand not in my mouth, to the surprise of my dinner companion. No blood, except a tiny bit

Second dental appointment secured bridge booked in for 3 months. Weighing up the cost of a bridge £365 v an implant £3,500, no brainer for me. Even if, as the dentist pointed out, I lost the bridge occasionally I would need to lose 10 to equal the cost of an implant. At my age not and a quick cost benefit analysis (yes I used to be a massive anorak) bridge booked in and 3 months being called gappy by the culprit. I’ll let him off.

There are benefits to this episode I can eat normally for the first time for ages plus dental bill for injections with tooth extraction avoided, it was painless. So if you ever want to remove a tooth, eat a caesar salad.

Secondly, ‘the case of the missing shirt’. I had been lusting after a shirt in the Sahara sale - my pre retirement go to clothes shop that does wonderful clothes for the podgier amongst us, but is not cheap. Delighted to see the shirt greatly reduced in the sale, I pressed the correct buttond, confirmed the payment on my banking app and forgot about it, until yesterday when the package arrived. I wasn't looking out for the delivery so both dogs were out and barking at the delivery driver. Mildred for a tummy tickle and Humphrey because he couldn't find a ball for the driver to throw for him. As it was not the regular driver who knows them both and gives Millie her tickle and Humphrey his ball, I asked him to leave the package on the wall outside my gate. I looked at the package and thought it was an odd shape for a shirt, but it was only when I tried to lift the package I realised something was very wrong. I can just about lift Humphrey’s 12kg dog food to put it the dog food bin, but I could not shift this package from over the fence. Ok, I know I’m a weakling. I looked at the label, it was definitely addressed to me, but came from Sahara, Bradford. I scratched my head, tried to dig around the grey cells to see if maybe I had ordered something else before realising I needed to open the package. Firstly, a baseball cap dropped out, followed by a violent waft of not very pleasant fish odours, I tentatively opened the flaps to see a large amount of varying fish foods inside. I don't fish nor have any fish in a pond.

I rang DPD, who cut me off, gave up with them and tried the chat with Sahara. A very productive chat with Carly followed, she was incredibly efficient, coped with my sense of humour and within minutes DPD had booked an appointment to collect the fish food and Sahara notified me of my new order. Our exchange ended with the following:

On Thu, Jul 16 2026, at 11:08 AM, Jo Linney wrote: Of course I will [return the shirt if the original arrives]. I just have an image of a large butch fisherman sitting on a river in my shirt…

On Thu, Jul 16 2026, at 11:11 AM, Carly wrote: 😂 I do too now! Thank you again for being so understanding (and funny)

It was a lovely exchange and as you can imagine it in my usual eccentric manner. I do apologise to fishermen but it was the image in my mind.

Thirdly, the case of the missing illness in Bonnie. The perpetrator of my gappiness FaceTimed in a panic on Monday evening, Bonnie had collapsed in a heap on the floor after a very short walk. Even I was worried and rushed over to pick them up, as he made an appointment with the out of hours vet at the Royal Veterinary Hospital (RVS) 20 miles away. Bonnie was still floppy when I arrived and she remained so until we arrived at the RVS. Then Madam couldn't wait to get out of the car, pulling my son towards the hospital as fast as her little legs would carry her, presumably assuming treats would be provided. We were seen very quickly with madam covering the student vet with licks and her bum wiggling with delight. We waited a bit longer in the waiting room to see the qualified vet who prodded every inch of her, poked her with a thermometer and pulled all her limbs. She then pronounced she didn't often see such healthy French Bulldogs, and could not find anything wrong. Bonnie is an ideal weight and normally very fit. She has to be to fly out of windows. We left, tails between our legs and Bonnie miffed because no treats were dispensed. The car was quiet as I drove to our respective homes.

Now to the final part of this post. I have finally discovered here on Substack, hence my photo of a fellow feline at the start of this post. Larry the cat was an account I really enjoyed on twitter, or whatever it's called these days, and one of those I missed when my scruples won over my need for such amusing, and/or informative accounts, a few years ago. Larry is the day from Downing Street who had been in post over countless numbers of Prime Ministers since his move from alley, oops street, cat to the chief resident member of 10, Downing Street staff and he gave me some chuckles during some very dark days. I am extremely impressed by his use of AI, something I have avoided, but as keyboards are not designed for paws & AI can help Larry I will forgive him.

I will now sign off and leave you all in peace as I promised, for a few weeks.

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How do you keep cool in this heat we've been having in the UK?

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I can never be accused of being predictable with my Substack, this week’s maybe completely off the eclectic eccentricity scale. Even the chief rabbit 🐇 has headed for the darkest part of his warren. However, ‘My play what I wrote’ is at the very bottom of this post as it comes with a trigger warning - it deals with suicide.

For my newer subscribers, the head rabbit 🐇 refers to earlier ramblings when I would burrow down into rabbit warrens, badger sets, fox dens and otter 🦦 holts researching articles, something I still do in occasionally, but have learnt that can be very difficult exercise for someone as disorganised as moi 🤣 and sends me down so many different tunnels, often happily loosing 6 hours. The head rabbit has sort of stayed with me. Eccentric I know.

Back on track. I have decided to take a break over the coming months to think about my Substack and where I am going with, possibly to even store up some posts, unlikely I know. Substack had changed and developed considerably over the last four years. It is now a very crowded, complex and multifaceted space. Iam not complaining that's life. I realise I need to develop and deliver more for my subscribers. There are three options:

a) say goodbye to Substack and take my leave - how pompous that sounds or,

b) change, revamp and do things differently. Although I need to understand my limitations.

c) do nothing, carry on as I am and very probably wither on the vine and bird you all rigid.

I need to decide how to move forwar, unfortunately it is not just a case of turning up and writing each week as I do now, I need to give myself serous brain ache.

I am SO grateful to everyone of you who supports my Substack. I will be back to tell you about the future of Growing Old & Owning The Real World and see you all on the other side, sometime in August.

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Think of your ideal day:

1. Who would you see? Maybe someone you don't see that often

2. What would you do? You have unlimited funds

3. Where would you do? You can ask Scottie to beam you up to anywhere (Star Trek reference)

4. What would you eat and where? As before you have unlimited funds and Scottie to beam you up, you can cook or have a chef

The a) Write a paragraph explaining why and b) think of ways to make your dreams come true - all legal of course.

Hopefully this gives you food for thought.

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TRIGGER WARNING:THE FOLLOWING REFERS TO SUICIDE

I started writing this a few years after my mother died. I wanted to try and do a play about suicide which captured the complex relationships, feelings and uncertainties, through my own experience of the Coroners Court. I tried to inject a sense of humour into proceedings using my, divorced, parents as the main characters. They did get on well after about 10 years post divorce in the 1960s. Whilst, my mother was an extremely difficult individual with an evil streak, she was super intelligent with a very quick mind, and tongue. My father was the exact opposite. Calm and kind without a malicious bone in his body. They were both successful lawyers but if very different ways. Father (TOM) was a country conveyancing in an old firm established by his father. Mother (MARGARET) worked as a barrister, as a solicitor big London city firms and in Hong Kong. Names have been changed. She died in 2003

Title: The Final Demise of Margaret Hutchinson

Scene One: The Beginning of the End

The Coroners Court: R two large leather chairs. Between the chairs is a small table with a bottle of gin, a bottle of tonic and two glasses. C facing the audience, there is a court room style ‘bench’ with a large chair behind, a large desk sign says CORONER. RC witness box, L a smaller table with two chairs at an angle to the audience, ULC grandfather clock

MARGARET enters and walks towards the audience.

MARGARET: (talking to herself) So this is it.

MARGARET looks at the Coroner’s bench then the witness box.

MARGARET: This is death. What a strange place to end up. Margaret wanders around the court. A bit like old times, entering the court ready for battle, a slight feeling of fear fluttering in the pit of one’s stomach, waiting for proceedings to start and the judge to decide your clients fate.

TOM enters and walks up behind MARGARET.

TOM: Hello, Margaret. Looking as stylish as ever, death clearly becomes you.

MARGARET jumps, stops pacing and turns to face TOM.

MARGARET: What the hell are you doing here?

TOM: Nice to see you too, a warm welcome as ever. I’m here to support as you await your verdict.

MARGARET: I always knew you were a bit lacking in the upstairs department. This is a coroner’s court. I’m not on trial nor in anyway the accused. You can’t try the dead?

TOM: I may not match up to your superior intellect, but like it or not I’m here to stay.

MARGARET: I really don’t want to spend the day listening to your banal drivel. (pause) Oh dear, I forgot, you’re dead, so you have nothing better to do.

TOM: I’m sure I can think of a million better things to do than spend the day with my deceased ex wife.

MARGARET walks over to TOM and inspects his face very closely

MARGARET: You don’t seem to have aged much in the last fifteen years.

TOM: A complement?

MARGARET: I didn't say you looked any better. Just the same raddled face I remembered.

TOM: One of the few advantages of being dead, not ageing.

TOM walks towards and sits down in one of the leather chairs

TOM: The last time we were in court together was over forty years ago. Our divorce I believe.

MARGARET: What a relief that day was.

TOM: For all of us. Do you ever wonder if things would’ve been different if we’d stayed married? Would you have been happier, wealthier, lived a fuller life? Would you or even both of us still be alive?

MARGARET: I can’t say it keeps me awake at night. Maybe you’d have actually got off your derrière and done something with your life. Rather than sitting by the fire waiting for life to come to you and playing at being a solicitor in sleepy country firm

TOM starts to talk MARGARET has wandered off.

MARGARET: I doubt I’d have been happy. Being married to you was a living nightmare, or should I say hell, buried up to my neck in a rambling, draughty old farmhouse in the middle of nowhere, playing the squire’s wife. Playing Mummy and Daddy to the little brood.

TOM: You loved all the trappings, the parties, the nanny, the trips to London to get your hair done and replenish your wardrobe.

Margaret (interrupting): Being bored ridged the rest of the time.

TOM: I may’ve been boring, but at least I’m not the one waiting for a coroner to pass judgment on whether I killed myself, or not.

MARGARET: No, you didn’t need a coroner; you just boringly snuffed it peacefully in a hospital bed.

TOM: Peaceful is definitely not a word I would use for your death; nor for your life for that matter.

MARGARET: What was wrong with having a bit of a spark now and then?

TOM: That would depend on what you mean by a bit of spark; a light pleasurable tingle or 10,000 volts that addles your brain. You were definitely the latter.

MARGARET: At least I died in style, not just through some boring illness, brought about by rich food, too much alcohol, too little exercise and boredom.

TOM ignores MARGARET and picks up the gin bottle on the table.

TOM: Gin and tonic?

MARGARET: How very civilised. Comfortable chairs and a stiff drink for, as you put it, the accused. Times have changed. I am sure this is not available to your average victim.

TOM: How would you know? You haven’t died before.

MARGARET: True

TOM pours a gin and tonic into each glass.

TOM: No ice or lemon I’m afraid.

MARGARET: Clearly standards aren’t what they should be here. I’ll complain to management.

TOM: If you can work out who they are.

MARGARET wanders back to the coroners bench, picks up a book & flicks through the pages

MARGARET: Coroner’s Court Law and Practice, the coroner’s bible. Why have it on the desk, surely they employ people who know their law? This is the City of London Coroner’s Court after all.

MARGARET puts the book down and wanders over to the witness box, she gets into the witness box.

MARGARET: I, Margaret Hutchinson, swear by almighty God I shall tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

TOM: Do you think people who take their own life are covered by an oath to God?

MARGARET: Who knows? I’m aethiest anyway

TOM: It doesn’t really matter, the deceased, whether victim, or as in your case accused, can’t enter the witness box. Well not yet anyway, you never know what may happen in the future.

MARGARET: I do wish you would stop referring to me as the accused.

TOM: For centuries it was legally wrong to take a life, even your own. It was not until the 1961 Suicide Act 1961, pushed through by Sir Charles Fletcher-Cooke, that is was no longer a criminal offence to attempt to take your own life.

MARGARET: Stop showing off. It's all a matter of opinion now. People have the right to decide their own ending.

TOM: Whilst, I don’t agree with that stance many still feel attempting to take your own life is criminal. Thank God we’re not here to debate the morality of suicide, just to get a coroner’s verdict on cause of death.

MARGARET wanders over to the clock

MARGARET: Talking of which, it’s nearly eleven o’clock. All this waiting around is ridiculous, I thought that was it, when my last breath left my lungs, all over, no more recriminations, just blackness, nothingness. I’d reached the light at the end of the tunnel. Yet here I am.

TOM: All in good time. Do come and sit down, and stop fiddling with things.

MARGARET: What’s your problem? Nobody can see or hear me. (PAUSE) Can they?

TOM: No, lucky buggers.

MARGARET goes and sits next to TOM. She takes a large slurp of gin and tonic

MARGARET: I see you haven’t lost your touch; you can still pour a decent G and T, ice or no ice.

TOM: What another complement? Now be a good girl and behave yourself.

MARGARET: Don’t be so patronising, I’ll behave how I like.

TOM: there was a little girl who had a little curl right in the middle of her forehead. Sshhh let the fun begin, I can hear the coroner coming down the corridor.

THE CORONER enters right carrying some files and walks over to the ‘bench’, sits down and places the files in front of him. MARGARET watches The Coroner enter.

MARGARET: What makes you think that’s the coroner?

TOM: Who do you think he is?

MARGARET: The clerk.

TOM: In that suit? Clerk’s wages would need to have improved considerably to afford designer suits.

MARGARET sneers at TOM

MARGARET: Let the scrutiny begin. Did she jump, was she pushed or was it accidental?

TOM: Do you actually know the answer, Margaret?

MARGARET: It is for me to know, the coroner to decide, and you Tom, to await the verdict.

TOM: Are you going to be like this all the way through?

MARGARET: Maybe, maybe not

TOM: Its a great shame the coroner cannot see or hear you. It might aid his verdict.

THE CORONER organises the files at the top of the desk and switches on the laptop computer. MARGARET watches intently.

MARGARET: Coroners are like police officers, they look like they have just got out of nappies.

TOM: You mean you’re old, (pause) and very dead of course.

MARGARET sneers at TOM

MARGARET: I do hope she knows what she’s doing.

TOM: Isn’t she one good enough for you then? What did you expect? Lord Chief Justice Scarman presiding, perhaps?

MARGARET: Don’t be so stupid, Tom, Scarman died years ago. But I’d have thought…

MARGARET stops in mid sentence. TOM picks up his glass and raises it to MARGARET

TOM: Yes, I agree, I maybe stupid, but I know you so well. Now shut up and listen

MARGARET sneers at TOM. KATIE - their daughter, enters carrying a handbag and some papers………

Is it just me or is this world becoming more fragmented? Are we losing the ability to communicate meaningfully? Is AI in danger of dulling our brains? Does it really matter? Oh dear, lots of thoughts running around the old curmudgeon's brain. I could go two ways with this post. Just leave it at the thoughts according to Linney or go down the rabbit 🐇 warren, turf out the head rabbit, dig around for reasearch and write a full blown article. There is a third option - a combination of the two.

As I write this post AI is, annoyingly, following my every tap of the keyboard and correcting my spelling, and who knows what else - that was a joke before you think conspiracy theories are weedling their way into my brain. Nonetheless, it is becoming increasingly clear that AI has completely left Pandora’s box and is rampaging around us. There are many benefits of AI - medical & general scientific advances and the ability to help those with communications issues engage in the wider communities are just but a few. However, for me, there are major concerns.

I thought I would start with option three a combination of the thoughts of Linney and diving down the rabbit hole to look at Heidegger’s Dasein. I started, but immediately realised the combination of my rusty philosophy and a week of excessive heat has completely fried my brain and the rummaging would take a lot longer than I have this morning. I will investigate and rummage further over the coming weeks.

Therefore, my only option is number one, concentrating on the thoughts according to Linney, which are flawed, random, eclectic and anything else you care to mention. I will start with AI, communication and how we all matter. AI is now impacting on most areas of ours lives in one way or another. I am going to test the most obvious contact with AI - google.

Before starting I checked to see if there was anyway google was assuming my age. I asked a question about my parents being horrible because they would let me out past 9 pm, google’s response clearly assumed I was a teenager, not an old curmudgeon testing them. You’ll have to read on now to understand what I am wittering on about.

You can now ask virtually google any question and an answer provided almost immediately. As an experiment I asked ‘how am I feeling today’the first lines of the response are:

Since I am an AI, I don’t have feelings of my own, but I’m ready to help you navigate yours!

Navigating your emotions can sometimes be tricky. To figure out how you’re feeling right now, you might want to try a quick mindful check.

Highlights google’s own formatting, presumably to make the point clear.

The second time I got this response:

As an AI, I don’t have feelings, emotions, or a body of my own to experience the day! I’m ready to assist, whether you need to process your own emotions or need help with a project.

Because identifying emotions can be tricky, doing a quick mental check-in is a great way to understand your current headspace.

To help me give you the best support today, how are things going for you?

Could you tell me:

• What emotions are you experiencing (e.g., happy, stressed, tired, or curious)?

• Are you looking to vent, or do you want to brainstorm a solution to a specific problem?

Let me know so I can tailor how I help you today.

The first time I asked the question a list of UK support organisations such as Samaritan's 116 123, were provided - I am in the UK. Nothing in google’s second answer.

My second question I asked was ‘how are you feeling today google?’ The response:

I’m doing great, thank you for asking! As an AI, I don’t experience feelings, but I’m fully charged and ready to help you with whatever you need today.

What does this experiment show? You may feel not a lot, however, for me it is worrying. Is there are danger that people living alone, without access to support - family/friends or professional may turn to AI to gain answers to their concerns - minor, major & traumatic?

I thought I would dig a bit further and told google ‘I hate my family’. Not an uncommon occurrence during the teen years. The opening paragraph was:

Feeling this way can be incredibly heavy, but it is valid. Many people experience strong negative emotions toward relatives due to toxic dynamics, past trauma, or conflicting values. You are not a bad person for recognizing and accepting these feelings without judgment

Heavy stuff to respond with after just those four words. The response followed on with quite a detailed answer about setting boundaries, acknowledging emotions etc and at the bottom a further question.

Could you tell me a little more about what’s going on? For instance:

• Are you dealing with constant arguments, feeling misunderstood, or something more serious like abuse or neglect?

• Do you live with them or have your own place?

This will help me give you more specific advice on managing the situation or planning to move out.

That response worried me for all kinds of reasons, mainly the number of assumptions, or lack of, how old am I? Old enough to deal with these answers, for example planning to move out. Something teenagers may well be encouraged to do, placing themselves in dangerous situations. Plus the question was not open, presumably to reduce the number of words and detail in responses. At the bottom there was a box to give more detail. I added: I hate my mum she never speaks to me. The response:

It is incredibly painful to feel ignored by your own mother. Being given the silent treatment or dealing with a parent who completely shuts down is a form of emotional neglect, and it is completely natural that you feel angry and hurt.

Google then goes onto to give some quite detailed ‘advice’ before finally asking some key questions such as:

Approximately how old are you (e.g., a teenager in school, or an adult looking to move out)?

Ok I'll agree this is a very random unscientific experiment, but for very worrying. Is there a danger that people become reliant on AI for friendship, ‘sage’ advice.

Sun X, Wang Y, McDaniel BT, have written an article AI companions and adolescent social relationships: Benefits, risks, and bidirectional influences. They conclude:

The rapid advancement of AI technologies has thrust AI-Cs into adolescents’ daily lives, creating tools that have strong appeal to adolescents but whose potential benefits and risks are not well understood. Rather than simply categorizing these technologies as uniformly beneficial or harmful, we have discussed them by considering competing theoretical frameworks, highlighting a complex interplay between AI-C use and adolescents’ social relationships. Researchers need to act rapidly to generate timely evidence with rigorous, youth-centered methods to inform policy and practice. By investigating these influences proactively rather than reactively, researchers and practitioners can help ensure that AI-Cs enhance rather than diminish the social interactions through which adolescents develop their relationship competence and well-being.

I would argue that further research needs to be urgently undertake to extend investigations into the use of AI across society as a whole in relation to mental health services and a potential reliance on AI. Google does respond to the statement ‘I don’t want to be here anymore.’ with Samaritans at the top followed by links to support agencies - although some ‘sponsered’.

Going down the rabbit 🐇 hole as usual, has completely sent me off track. However it has got me thinking seriously about whether we are in danger of replacing human verbal communication with keypads, is it correct to say ‘chat lines’ is the way it is, please don't think I am proposing doing away with chat lines. But dealing with humans, even on a chat line is important rather than AI.

No AI could cope with my quirky sense of humour when answering questions on how to deal with Humphrey’s over exuberant jumping up - a story for another day.

I don't have the answers but I do know it is something that can affects us all both positively and negatively.

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Prompt - a little experiment -

Ask google a question about emotions, if possible follow the responses through with fake scenarios:

How did the AI response make feel? And why?

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My brain is frazzled, fried, over heated - you get the gist, it's a tad hot - and for once I feel I can geniunely mutter about the heat. It is very hot here, 29 degrees at 10 am and this country is not geared up for it. I'm not going to go on, just accept life is cancelled for the next few days and get on with it, or to put it more honestly, get on with nothing except some Linney eclectic and eccentric musings.

My garden is a haven of peace and quiet in normal circumstances that is until Open Gardens as I recounted last week and last Saturday over 100 from a concert at the church picnicking in our garden - see photos above. One minute it was all peaceful, the next minute the swarm appeared up the steps, an hour later the swarm left. However much I tried, I could not find any rubbish at all, nothing. Not even a speck of paper and much to the disgust of Mildred not even a crumb to hoover up. The devil in me thought of letting her lose to rampage amongst the picnickers, but neither her kidneys nor the extremely friendly and well behaved picnic crowd could have coped with resulting carnage. Humphrey’s ghost like figure watched on from the bedroom, he’s not a crowd type dog and finds it all too much.

It is definitely too hot for my brain I have just had to delete a whole section because it was too similar to last week, d’oh.

A couple of Substacky things. I was disappointed to read ’s note on the reaction she had received to her invite to go the Substack Fete. It is writers like Louise who should be celebrated they have worked so hard to build up their communities on Substack without the benefit of celebrity. What is wrong people? Yes, I would have loved to be invited, but seeing people like Louise there gave me a good feeling. Yes Substack cares about making money, encouraging high profile people, journalists, writers etc onto the platform, that's where they make their money and events like the fete are aimed at the publicity. I repeat I for one was so, pleased to see Louise, and others there. Thank you you deserved to be there. Please all you moaners don't turn Substack into an unfriendly environment.

The second Substack thing is I found her here and bought her book. I loved it, it became my month, a morning wake up read, definitely recommend it. I would love to read BM’s musings if she ever comes here - if you want to know who BM is you’ll need to read the book Receipts From The Bookshop, no Katie Clapham doesn't know I've plugged her book.

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How do you keep cool in very hot weather?

Can you think of a thought that would cool you down?

If you can list three thoughts, places or activities and what made you think of them

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Good morning everyone, I’m back. I genuinely hadn't realised it's been a month since I've written my Substack. Where does time, life and bits go. I have no idea. I have been a lurker, enjoying my regular Substacks and checking out notes. I came across a new one to me. , The Daily Rewire and a lot of what she wrote in Apparently we were all tired of self improvement that struck a chord.

Yes, I do some self improvement and learn a great deal from many wise people on Substack. However, after 67 years I've realised you can't improve on perfection. The head rabbit 🐇 has just popped his head up in absolute incredulity, fallen off whatever he was standing and disappeared again he was laughing so much. I will amend that statement. After 67 years what's the point, the damage is irreparable. Please before you all shout at me ‘you're never too old’, both those statements are tongue in cheek. I have got here - 67 I have changed, I am a writer - of sorts. Thank you you got me writing again this sunny, and ridiculously hot Monday morning. Don't forget I'm a moaning Minnie from the UK, the weather is never right. In my defence last week I put the heater on in the evening it was so cold and we had frosts.

Where have I been? You won't be thinking. It's been a good few weeks, with the odd down days. I had a fabulous few days last week with a lovely friend. Humphrey, mainly & Mildred partly, by winding him up, totally disgraced themselves. We had already agreed that the dogs would be too much and made alternative overnight arrangements, but she was not prepared for, as she put it, the pony that is Humphrey jumping up with ball 🎾. He is big and exceedingly bouncy, and unfortunately not used to people coming into my hobbit home. Therefore we spent the few days out and about the Hertfordshire countryside, good food, great company. Whilst I felt guilty about not being able to provide bed & breakfast, it did work out very well..…..I hope.

On one day we visited my son. Easy you would think, they only live 6 miles away. Doing my usual old age Lewis Hamilton round the country lanes we come to a junction, I am about to turn right when I spy the dreaded Road Closed ⛔ sign with no detail. The trailer in front of me indicated left and stopped mid turn - another Road Closed ⛔, this time with barriers. The driver got out scratched his head when a traffic person appeared, they also looked puzzled. I risked it and turned right, thinking they can't cut off the village completely. To cut a long story short at every junction there were road closed signs with no proper indication of where, why or alternative routes. Luckily I know the roads like the back of my hand. Nonetheless, it took 40 minutes to do a 10 minute journey, along roads I may know, but they’re so narrow, if you come across a sheep that doesn't, you're in trouble. I later found out the diversion was 14 miles and with all the other diversions likely to be pot luck if you manage to find the right route.

My friend met Bonnie, see above, now happily living in her new home, a local pub run by my son’s girlfriend. She maybe smaller than my two but is as much of a character. A few weeks ago new signs anonymously appeared outside the pub - see above. Bonnie decided she needed to say hello to a customer and his dog. Problem, she was upstairs looking out of the window and they were outside in the high street. Clearly, not a problem for Bonnie, she opened the window and jumped. The only damage was a slight cut on her chin, a dog with 120 lives. Now all windows have to be closed, locked, alarmed, steel bars fitted and wire mesh stretched across them. Bonnie will need to find a new activity, or they need to buy her a parachute. My son when he left for pastures new was convinced he could find a Bonnie proof kitchen bin. I had my doubts, the result can be seen above. I doubt even a modern safe would deter Bonnie from a prized morsel of food.

Another day, we went to the Henry Moore Studios & Gardens. The grounds are stunning and if you visit with children plenty of room for them, and you, to let off steam, with studios and barns dotted around. The Aisled Barn houses stunning, and vast, tapestries of Henry Moore’s work. The sculptures outside change every year as many are loaned out. One of my favourite’s, the scissor handles, was missing because of an exhibition at Kew Gardens quote: for what is the largest ever presentation of outdoor artworks by Moore. We took the tour round Hoglands, Moore’s family home - a fascinating insight into Moore and for me very nostalgic. Would you leave a Rodin sculpture, even if small, on your coffee table? I definitely recommend a visit, finished off with lunch at the recently reopened Hoops.

Later that evening we went to see Lenny Henry in Hertford at the local theatre. He was fantastic and at 67, the same age as me, I know you already know that, but I could relate to a lot of his stories/jokes and remembered Tiswas and all the characters from his shows.

I'll stop boring you now and put my feet in a bucket of iced water.

Prompt:

Find a photo of your favourite painting, sculpture or other art work. Really look at it for a couple of minutes:

In a paragraph describe how this art work makes you feel?

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I am going to be open and admit I was wrong. I want apologise to . I implied in my last post that too many celebrities’ publisists were starting to use Substack to promote already mega stars at the expense of smaller, and newer Subtsacks. does appear to get the point of Substack being a welcoming and safe space and not just a publiscist’s money earner. He posted a very personal note yesterday on food memories from his son’s rugby pitch while watching a match. I remember those pitches long before they were surrounded by houses and the head rabbit 🐇 had free reign, unless chased down his warren by our scottie dog, who had escaped from our garden down the road. I have now subscribed to and hope he will accept my apology for the number of plugs I've given him in my opening paragraph…ok I know he won't see it.

Onto more serious stuff. I want to explain what I mean by Substack being a welcoming and safe space. There are great writers, journalists, thinkers and many others who frequent Substack sharing a lot of their experiences and insights, and I include celebrities of all kinds, it is a natural progression on a successful social media platform. I often disagree with the views written in some posts, some posts make few uncomfortable, and some posts are the complete opposite of my own opinions. Those posts are important because they challenge and make me think. However, those posts do not overstep a line, for example by inciting violence against others.

Over the last couple of weeks, there has been growing concern about the Substack bestsellers list and about one name in particular banned from other social media platforms. Whilst he has been on Substack for a while, he only recently turned on paid subscriptions, (the statistic used to identify bestsellers) and gained a high profile.

The Daily Telegraph reported on 17th April 2026 that he could make up to £198,000 per month with the words: ‘AT could be on his way to making mid-six figures on Substack and the newsletter platform’s literary luvvies are up in arms’. I am surprised by the words an allegedly respected newspaper uses to open a serious article. I am not going to go into full rant, however, this is no joke. Freedom of speech is important but how should we respond when that freedom is being used to purposely cause harm to -rabbit warren check- 49.4% of the global population women, by inciting young men into believing that women ask to be abused and are worthless. A number of wonderful substackers have written very eloquently on this subject Claire Venus, and others and arguing we need to empower the best of Substack.

I have blocked and reported the individual and therefore cannot report him anymore, because I will no longer be able to see his posts. I hope others who have power, in other words, large paid subscriber lists or the potential to have large paid subscriber lists report and block, money talks.

If we are honest it was inenvtiable that Substack users would face these dilemmas. I, personally, hope these Substacks can be banished into the dark depths. I can deal with the ‘Hi beautiful, I love your writing’ or those looking for a relationship, because they think I am a sad washed up old woman who is desperate to hear from them - immediate block. What I find hard is feeling that I maybe unsafe writing certain things because of trolls etc. That's when I would leave Substack, hopefully we are far from reaching that point.

I subscribed to not just for a penance, or because I enjoyed my trip down memory rugby pitches, but to push him up the bestseller list to drown out others who are in danger of turning Substack on its head. Then I realised, unless turns on paid subscriptions, regardless of the number of subscribers he gains, he will not appear on the bestseller list. Unless, 💡 moment, he turns them on and gives complimentary subscriptions. Not sure that would work a) impossible to implement with large numbers and b) not sure complimentary subscribers count.

I am sorry this is a serious post this week and one if I am honest I knew I would be writing at some stage. It is not a case of every good thing comes to an end, but every good thing has stormy times. I am hoping this is the last post I will have to write on this or similar subjects. I suspect not. I do not want to feel that Substack is no longer a place for me and I have to pack up my bags, descend into the rabbit warren and bolt the door. I am so grateful that I personally have built up a lovely community of subscribers over my 3 1/2 years here. I hope that I help foster the welcoming safe atmosphere in my eclectic, eccentric and curmudgeonly way. I recognise, before I sound too much like John Boy Walton saying goodbye to all his family at the end of the programme, Substack must be a place for writers from all walks of life, uncomfortable discussions and opposing views of all kinds, but not those that incite violence and deep rooted hatred for others.

This is a complex and multifaceted issue, that cannot be covered in a short Substack post. I hope at least, I have got you thinking for a few minutes, but not too long, we must get back to the real point of Substack to encourage writing and thought in a safe space.

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Prompt - a woo woo one to please the Daily Telegraph and prove I am a luvvy - if not a literary one 😂

Find a time to stand outside for a couple of minutes, close your eyes, breathe in through your nose for 4 out through your mouth for 6 three times. Stand still and listen, smell and feel. When you've had enough list everything you heard, smelt and felt.

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I have asked myself this question for ever and a day. I may be an old eccentric curmudgeon, but I still ask myself that same thing. Why? Because I am not sure I have ever grown up, and I always seemed to end up doing things rather than planning. Now my only responsibilities are two mad black labradors, the question seems as relevant as ever. Many people have a vocation, to be a doctor, a writer, an accountant, a full time parent and achieve their dreams. Having left school by mutual agreement aged 15 I could not follow my dream of being a criminal pathologist or cancer researcher - another story for another day. I have recently been thinking even more about what I want to do when I grow up aged 67, or in reality what do I want to do with the time I have left, lets be honest I don't have the time to retrain as a pathologist. Then why ask the question? For a number of reasons.

Firstly, and most importantly, Easter Saturday marked five years since my beautiful daughter, Sarah died. During the week leading up to the day, I felt my body physically reacting to my grief, the chest pains/aches, tiredness and irritability, as I did after she died and her father, my soul mate John, died 2 years previously. All the feelings dispersed on Easter Sunday. I know I am accommodating the massive holes Sarah and John left but also know I need to pull myself up, stop catastrophising and finding some joy in life.

I think about Sarah and John every day and wonder what they would think of me now and what advice they would give me. Looking back over the years since they died I often ask myself where have the years gone and what have I done with all that time. I start beating myself up for not having achieved anything. Nothing to do with Algernon - my inner critic from my last post, it is my response to guilt. I feel guilty I am still alive when they had so much more to offer and I desperately want them here. Yet, I know that is not possible and I need to start telling, or more importantly, convincing myself:

a) Nobody but me blames me for being here and relatively normal - ok the tic and muttering in dog language gives the full truth away.

b) I have done things, even if sometimes it is a simple as getting up in the morning.

c) John & Sarah would never want me to feel guilty and would want me to live the best life I can, as I would them.

d) I need to look after me/myself mentally and physically, convince myself I'm ok, not a total dolt and develop a little pride in the things I have achieved. Thoughts and beliefs totally against my nature, for all kinds of reasons.

Starter for Ten What have I done with my time over the last 7 years, since John died? Please skip this it is boring and for me as much as anything:

In the first year I moved house, lost one dog and gained two, bought a new car. In the second year I went through lockdown alone, started a Masters degree in Existential and Humanist Pastoral Care and gained loads of headaches. After Sarah died I gained my post grad certificate, having, understandably been unable to complete the full degree. Throughout those years I started painting with pastels, something I love doing and going alone to residential courses with total strangers. Started attending a weekly art group and as a result did life drawing classes, no not as the model, and been pleased with some of my drawings. I finally made a trip to London on my own and felt normal again and visited close friends in London. I almost, live contentedly alone in my chaos - no that's not being hard, being kind to myself also means being honest. There are still days of total abjectivity. I recognise there always will be such periods and I know they pass.

I must make myself say I am proud of many of those achievements. The worst part is that I cannot tell John & Sarah about them. That matters, they were both honest and told me if I was being an idiot or when I did well. Being proud was/is a mutual feeling. I desperately miss hearing and being proud of their new achievements, big, small and in between. One day I may write a post on pride, as with other negative emotions such as jealously, anger, sadness, each has their place in our lives, as long as we own them and never allow them to take control. None of us are perfect.

I have become a writer, done countless great creative writing courses that inspired and terrified me in equal measures. I have been on Substack for over 3 1/2 years and posted regularly boring people. I have written a third/fourth draft of my memoir. As I endlessly drone on about, I am building up my courage to submit a proposal to an agent. My grammar has improved.

One of the most difficult things of living alone after significant losses is motivation. The big things like doing a Masters or writing a book are easier than the little things - clearing up the torn up tin foil all over the floor courtesy of Mildred and all the dog hair everywhere….why can't they do it themselves? Making myself go out every day, not to open the bottle of wine, clearing out the cupboards, changing the WiFi provider. The last I finally attempted this week but as usual not as straight forward as it should be. Because my building is listed they want to gain building consent to drill the small hole required, although I think I found an existing hole in the right place. Nonetheless it may mean I lose the new subscriber deal because getting any consent takes weeks and maybe out of contract with my present provider.

Substack has been one thing I am proud of, yes boring you all with my wittering. I am so grateful for my wonderful loyal subscribers who have supported me over the years. However, the platform has changed a great deal during the last couple of years. It is much more crowded with many more well known writers and celebrities competing for our attention. Jamie Oliver has suddenly popped up, why?

As an official grumpy old curmudgeon I could just mutter, complain, grump and disappear under the weight of ‘new’ celebrity Substackers. But I am a realist, and publicists, yes, I am a cynic, can see the massive opportunities Substack provides for broadening opportunities to reach even bigger audiences. I feel very sad and worry those new to Substack will not be heard in an increasingly crowded and noisy environment or will not, as I did, dip a toe in the water and feel the warm glow. One of the massive benefits of Substack is giving space for new writers to flex their muscles, flourish, grow into thriving spaces and for some businesses. The threat of AI and posts written by ‘staff’ rather than the individual has the potential to change and threaten Substack’s creative, warm, threatening (is that a word), welcome to new writers of all ages.

How do you think about Substack can keep its uniqueness?

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Reading this post back. It is self indulgent - apologies but I hope it may resonate with others and make them think: ‘I am not alone. It is ok not be ok.’ It is eclectic - nothing new there then. It is rambling - I've been talking to the chief rabbit 🐇 too much and why use one word when I can use ten.

No, I haven't come up with an answer to my question. I have no idea what I want to be. Maybe a published memoirist. Maybe an artist with her own exhibition. Maybe a dog owner with 2 perfectly behaved labradors who look lovingly at me when I tell them to stop barking, like the Hounds of The Baskerville, at the dog passing across the road. Even 67 year olds should dream about what they want to be when they grow up. We should all have dreams regardless of our age. Although, the question may need to be - what do I want be when I grow down? I am definitely shrinking as I grow old. See Why do I shrink in height as I age? apprently it starts at 40, definitely another article.

Prompt - totally off the wall:

Find five jokes, or short skits on YouTube, or thoughts that make you laugh, pick your favourite and make someone else laugh.

Challenge: Try to find at least one everyday and share it with at least one person and share a laugh.

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You may have noticed, as an old curmudgeonly woman living alone I ponder a lot. This week it's about how to get the Gremlins out of my head, to climb out my rut and not become like Sisyphus. My ruts are grey misty places where all I do is wallow in being a failure. I procrastinate and grumble endlessly, until Mildred and Humphrey disappear upstairs, tails between their legs, bored witless - you get the picture. My Substack suffers, and Algernon AKA my inner critic forces me to sit in the corner with my dunces hat on the recently vacated dog’s bed because he’s convinced me I cannot do anything.

We are often told to write letters to those who have done us harm and are no longer here or letters of love to ourselves. I am not sure that works with Algernon. I want to be more proactive in my approach to him, after all in reality I am writing a letter to myself.

Lightbulb 💡moment - rather than writing to Algernon I’ll interview him forcing myself to answer him back, point by point. Now I realise this post could bomb 💣 spectacularly or, as I hope it will, it may resonate with others. So here goes:

Good morning Algernon how are you doing?

Who wants to know? I don't talk to fools.

I apologise but you do realise I'm not going anywhere, you are part of me so you may as well play along with me.

Please could you tell me about me and my writing abilities?

See I told you, you were a fool. I'm your inner critic - I'm here to tell you're a useless idiot who believes she can do things she is totally incapable of doing, like trying to write, training the dogs and as for your housework where do I start. You never finish anything and you always give up. I've got lists as long as both my arms. There's not a lot else to say about you. You’re a lost cause.

Ok Algernon you maybe right, but I want to keep this manageable and concentrate on one thing, my writing, rather than your usual lets go for everything routine.

Please could you explain why you think, or as you put it, you know, I cannot write?

Why do you think? You're useless at writing. Where do I start? I know, you couldn't even produce key reports for work. Remember that time you presented your final report to councillors. Rather than reading the content they spent 45 minutes complaining about your grammar. They weren't interested in discussing your findings. You looked a complete fool. This also highlights how bad you were are at your job.

Ok you’re right Algernon. Hang on a minute no you're not. I know there were some errors but not many, I proofread it 3 times. The reason they picked at my grammar and didn't discuss the content, because they didn't want to acknowledge what I had uncovered about their services.

In terms of my professional writing I wrote everyday: including a chapter of a book on charging for residential care, training packs, policy documents for government, guidance for the DWP which was used for years, contract pitches. I ran my own consultancy business for over twenty years, if I was so rubbish why did people keep employing me.

What do you think of that?

You stupid woman that's annorak stuff and nothing to do with real writing. You were hopeless at your job, you know you were, you always said you felt an imposter riding on other people’s coat tails. Stop kidding yourself woman.

But everybody goes through periods of imposter syndrome. Ok, deep down I know you’re right. I never did anything with my life and yes, lived off other people’s coat tails…..hang not always. I set up a playscheme in Nottingham in the 70s that's still running today, I was a welfare rights workers for 15 years and a welfare policy adviser for over 25 years. One day I will sit down and list the things I have achieved in my working life.

Pah, anyone could have done those things, you never did anything properly. At 67 the list should be pages not the back of an envelope like yours.

I know I did things properly, ok not everything, but I always tried my best. Stop trying to push me back into wallowing and move on Algernon, back to writing. You didn’t fully answer my first question.

Why can't I write?

It's a fact you can’t. Your grammar, as I have already told you, is atrocious. You have no original ideas. You've been working on that ridiculous memoir of yours for over two years and it's still garbled rubbish. You have a ridiculous idea for a rubbish novel. You don't have a creative bone in your body, you're too old, too much like a dinosaur. Is that enough?

I accept my grammar is not good, it never has been and got worse after my stroke, which happened 6 months before I delivered that report. However, if you don't mind me saying Algernon, who is writing the words in your mouth, your grammar must be rubbish too.

My memoir maybe ridiculous in your eyes and I know it will never get published, but John and Sarah’s stories are important to tell, which includes telling mine and Mother’s stories. I need to do it the best way I can and that takes time. The publishing world is extremely competitive if I don't get any bites, it's not because it's bad. If John and Sarah were here they would tell me to go for it.

As for being old it has given me a wealth of ideas, knowledge and experiences to draw on. The characters in my novel, Maud, Kate & Tricia each have a different aspect of me in them. I love writing about them, I've just listened to you too much and come to a halt. Most importantly I love writing, most of the time.

Moving on. What about my Substack?

Your Substack, where do I start? You pick it up, drop it, then pick it up again, fiddle around, you even thought you could use your crap paintings to illustrate it. Your subscribers need their heads examining. Why on earth do you think they read your rubbish? I'll tell you why because they feel sorry for you.

Ok Algernon, let’s cover the point you make about my subscribers first, they are amazing I am honoured that they have chosen to have my ramblings down the rabbit 🐇 warren land in their inboxes or read my ramblings on Substack. They inspire me and I learnt so much from them all. I love painting and use them sparingly on here.

As for dropping and picking it up. I know when I need a break. Sometimes I do write something and then delete it because your not happy with it and at times you’re right, I need to tear it up. Sometimes you have burrowed so far into my brain it hurts, and I'm so tired fighting you I crawl under a metaphorical writing duvet and stay there. The phase I am in at the moment. However, I will not delete this post. Even if you think it is…..

… rubbish, yes it's the worst bit of drivel ever written.

Shut up I haven't finished. I started my Substack nearly 3 1/2 years ago when it was a different space with fewer writers. Hands up I know I cannot compete with the newer, more experienced, innovative Substackers, writers, journalists and experts, but that’s ok. I promised myself I would stop or take a breaks when I started worrying about what to write to the point of lying awake at night. However, at the moment I will continue to write my Substack my way, even if occasionally I miss a week or two. I am proud of what I have achieved here.

You're more delusional than I thou….

Shut up Algernon or I'll delete all of this post and your voice won’t be heard.

What would a fat ugly blob like you know? Before you argue you know it's true, your are gross, you say it yourself often enough. If not why don't you have any mirrors in your house?

For once I've hit a nerve, so you’ve hit me below the belt, if I could fit one on. You’ve must have been listening to Mother, she’s the reason I don't like mirrors. However as I grow older I realise it really doesn't matter, I don't have to look at myself. Yes I am very overweight and it is not good for my health, but this winter was not good for me. I will get over Easter and lose weight again. I know I can do it I list over 1 1/2 stone last summer. I can do it. I will get healthier. I can make myself presentable without a mirror.

I am not going to be sidetracked. We’re here to discuss my writing not other aspects of my life.

We’ll see you’ll always be..….

Thank you Algernon, we’ll stop there, but thank you for your very helpful insights and whether you like it or not I am going to continue my writing, my way.

Clearly I’m not doing my job right if you found them useful! You should pack up your laptop, iPad and fountain pen and head for that duvet to hide under and leave me alone.

I'm afraid whether you like it or not you are an important part of my life. Not everything you say is wrong, and your voice helps me consider important aspects of my life such as losing weight, getting healthier, questioning decisions and keeping me realistic.

You keep me grounded as long as I keep you at arm’s length and stay rational about your comments. For example, I know my memoir is unlikely to get published, I'm ok with that and will keep on trying. My Substack will never be in the charts, but that’s ok, I have loyal, kind and wonderful subscribers. I’ll stop completely when I dread writing my Substack and/or become obsessive about the data.

If you say so, you stupid old woman. However, there is so much more I could say.

I know there is much more. I will finish by saying, I may at times be stupid, but as I grow older I begin to realise it really doesn't matter. Sometimes it is good to admit you don't know the answer. I always said when I was training, never feel stupid when asking questions. However simple they may appear to be, sometimes I didn't know the answer, even as the trainer. Before you tell me I'm stupid Algernon, I would always rather be honest than give people bull shit.

Now Algernon get back into the corner and don't complain about the dog bed being dirty, it's clean enough for Mildred and Humphrey.

Thank you for reading this week’s post, which may well have been twaddle. However, for me interviewing Algernon occasionally is a good thing when I concentrate on one thing. I know myself well enough to know if I am in the rut I allow Algernon to move onto other parts of my life to force myself back into the bit. Forcing myself to concentrate on one thing helped me focus and force myself to answer those criticisms rationally and more importantly honestly.

This is my last Algernon interview to be published for a number of reasons. I don’t want to bore you or sound self obsessed. Some things are too personal and painful to publish and I am unlikely to be honest with myself if I was going to publish my real thoughts. However, when I next interview him I will tackle one those painful subjects, and really make myself argue my case, as I did for others all those years ago in social security tribunals.

Sometimes we need to force ourselves to argue with ourselves. I found that by interviewing and distancing myself from my inner critic, I became more objective. I set myself two rules. First, argue until I feel better about the issue or at the very least I understand the problem. Second make sure I have nice things planned afterwards - like my new mini when it arrives and I can drive without watching the warnings in fear of being stranded somewhere and waiting hours for the AA to arrive.

Ok, Algernon that may all sound like gobblydegook to you. I know what I mean and hope those reading this do as well and it is of some use to somebody.

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Prompts

Name your inner critic if possible. Take one, possibly small for your first go, aspect of your life you feel unsure of or are avoiding because you think/know you will fail e.g. drawing, dancing, applying for that job you’ve always wanted and interview your inner critic.

List 10 things you are proud of achieving, anything however small or BIG: could be getting the kids, or in my case the dog, to do what they were told - clearing out that cupboard you’ve been avoiding for months - getting a new job - the number of exams you past forty years ago - running a marathon - walking 500 yards - getting on a bus to go somewhere - unblocking the sink on your own……….

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For once, I am not going to apologise for my tardiness with my Substack being late yet again. Nor I am going to apologise for having given my MPs a break. No not the countless letters I write to Chris Hinchcliff MP my, dare I say, brilliant local parliamentary representarive, about the state of the head rabbit’s 🐇 front garden and rambunctious parties, but my morning pages. Instead I have been reading with my morning cup of tea in bed to break up my routine, almost taking a holiday.

First, The Correspondent by Virginia Evans and second, The Barbeque at No.9 by . I loved and recommend both. But The Barbeque at No.9 dragged me out of my writing rut. I won't give the story away, only to say it’s set on the day of Live Aid - 13th July 1985, is beautifully written, with suspense and humour, bringing back the atmosphere of the day with many twists and turns making you want to read on, yet not wanting to finish the book. The story brought back memories of happier times when Sarah, my daughter, was 5 years old in our first home in London. John and I were young parents and often had impromptu barbeques in the back garden.

Writing memoir is not easy. Hands up, I was beginning to throw in the towel. I may have written the words, but they need tidying up, moving around, major editing and ensuring I written them within a clean and logical structure. Something clicked, whilst reading first thing in the morning. I remembered good happy times when Sarah and John were alive. I can't put all of them in the book, like that day nearly 21 years ago, but I can remember them as I write.

On the 13th July 1985 we left home early bundling Sarah and her mate into the car and headed towards Whipsnade Zoo. I remember watching them running around the wide expanses of grass in complete safety demanding to see the elephants, the lions, the bears or the chimpanzees, then realising they were tired and hungry and wanted to go home. We bundled them back into in the car. On the journey home there was silence from the back seat as they fell asleep, only waking with renewed energy when we arrived home. We had one of our impromptu barbeques that evening too.

I want to finish telling Sarah and John’s stories alongside my own. Even if I know I am unlikely to get my tome published I want to leave something that does those stories justice. I returned to my new writing station, opened up my computer and started again on Surviving The Curse of Mother with fresh eyes. Well not quite fresh with my developing cataract - growing old can be a pain, literally and metaphorically. Watch this space for progress.

I will return to morning pages, they are a useful tool helping me dump my overnight stupid over inflated bad thoughts out of my head and onto the page. I can even give my inner critic Algernon a kick up the arse along the way and get my positive creative thoughts going. But my MPs had become a burden. I began to admonish myself. ‘Naughty Linney you haven't written your MPs this morning.’ or ‘you only wrote one page.’ Algernon was taking over my MPs, I couldn't kick him hard enough. I know part of my problem has been the dank, grey weather over here in the UK. No, I'm not entering the usual British weather rant. Ok, a tiny one, life begins to take on a greyness all of its own.

Yesterday we were treated to a whole day of Spring, even before Spring has officially sprung. My spirits lifted as I sat outside a garden centre drinking my latte with a friend. I am never sure whether Spring or Autumn are my favourite seasons, during both, the colours come alive. Today Spring is my favourite. Yesterday I saw 6 yellow butterflies flitting around the garden and three massive bumble bees buzzing in the flowers to replenish their supplies of nectar. Three bluebells are starting to flower alongside the snowdrops, hellebors, daffodils and primroses - very strange. Let's hope we don't get any more frosts.

I took the photos above yesterday in the garden as promised for in Eastern Canada. Spot the Humphrey and or tennis ball in some of them. I am convinced the tennis 🎾 balls have seeded and multiplied in our garden.

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Can you remember Live Aid day on 13th July 1985? If not think of another day when everyone across Countries got ‘together.’

What were you doing and how did you feel in those days?

If they are good write then down for posterity.

If the memories are not good, try to replace those memories with one, however small, golden nugget of a memory and write a few words on the golden nugget.

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My bones are definitely creaking more than they were 20 years ago in places I never knew existed. However, this morning when I took Humphrey into the garden, my spirits were lifted by the bright sunshine, by the above, and I felt one less creak. What is it about the weather and the time of year that impacts us so much? For me, this has included my writing mojo. It seems that Algernon, my inner critic, loves and feeds off the dank, yuck weather, sapping all confidence from my creative, creaking bones. I know I could go down the rabbit 🐇 hole and search out all the research on shorter days, lack of sunlight, reduced socialising, etc., but the head rabbit has put up the sandbags and serious flood defences, and I have no chance of accessing the library.

As I sit here writing this post, the sun has decided an hour’s work was enough, disappeared, and the rain has returned. Here in the UK, the weather has been unpredictable in temperatures, but not in dankness and greyness. The ground is sodden, the rivers swollen, and the mud plentiful.

I will not be beaten by the sun going on strike yet again and taking away my good mood. Putting my coat on to take Humphrey out this morning, it was a pleasure not to be accompanied by the usual thoughts of getting wet, cold and covered in mud. The one thing you can guarantee in this house is that Humphrey wakes up full of the new day, bouncing like a rubber ball. Mildred literally growls and can even snarl when told its time to get up. She is the most vocal dog I know, using her barks, growls and paws to let you know what mood she’s in. She will snarl then get up, shake and is happy again. My mood in the morning is halfway between the two.

Standing at the top of the garden as Humphrey charged around after his ball, I soaked in the brief spring atmosphere and actually smiled. I listened for the birds, then realised they were not singing. Two red kites were swirling overhead, hunting for whatever smaller bird may be stupid enough to put its head above the branch to become prey. Red kites are relatively new in our area in the great scheme of things, only since 2009-ish. However, they have steadily increased in numbers, and a couple of pairs breed nearby. When others pass through, or a field is ploughed, you can see up to 20 overhead, a stunning sight.

Failing to see or hear any birds, I looked around at the daffodils standing proud, their buds waiting for the first warmth as they have for the last couple of weeks. We have Narcissus, snowdrops, and primroses flowering at the same time. Whilst I realise this is possible, the numbers seem out of kilter.

My writing station inside the house has moved and now looks out over the garden from my spare room/my son’s room. I will be able to see the changing weather as we move towards Spring. I am hoping my new writing station will give me the kick up the a#&£e I need to get me writing again. Watch out, Algernon, I’m coming after you to kick you back into the corner.

I will stop my waffling now, leave you in peace and take Humphrey out in the rain and mud.

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Think of two positives to winter? Write on paragraph on each one

What is the worst part of winter? Why and can you turn it into a positive?

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Some of you maybe surprised to know I understand and embrace the benefits of smartphones considering the title of this post. Why do I think people come to that conclusion? Because I am old.

What a couple of judgemental sentences I have just written. However age even now, is seen as a barrier to accepting and embracing new technologies. As usual I am writing this post under the academic rules of Linney and the head rabbit 🐇 (last mention of rabbits) namely based on my observations and experiences. I have done exceedingly light touch burrow down into academic research but glad I did as A 2022 study Elderly Forgotten? Digital Exclusion in the Information Age and the Rising Grey Digital Divide by Farooq Mubarak and Reima Suomi Concluded:

Results indicate a rising problem of ageing, mainly in developed countries. Grey digital divide constitutes a major challenge for elderly to participate and bene t from the digital revolution. Elderly face problems for basic tasks such as booking tickets or renewing bus cards to claiming old-age bene ts because most of the systems are digitized. Another challenge is the social exclusion faced by elderly because they cannot connect with peers through digital networks due to lack of digital skills. This situation is also observed in developing countries, although in developing countries elderly get immediate help from family members due to the family system of joint living

This study blew a smidgeon of the ranting wind out of my sails. I was going to rant age is not an issue, having evaluated a study 15 years ago which concluded that the grey digital divide would not be an issue over the next few years. I realise there are no straightforward reasons. It is a complex and multifaceted issue, and not just about a fear of technology or lack of knowledge. Loss of sight and stiffness in fingers due to arthritis can be a major problem when trying to negotiate apps on smartphones for banking, booking tickets etc and it can be hard to admit you are struggling. We have it drilled into our psyche never to reveal password, pin numbers etc to others. Both these points can prove a major barrier if your travel card needs renewing or you want to book tickets to the theatre, or need to check your bank balance because you suspect a scam and other activities enabling people to socialise and remain art of our society, something essential to reduce social isolation amongst older people or to stay safe.

The positive side is things like WhatsApp, Zoom and messaging keep us connected with others, including sharing photos. You can video call from anywhere, data and wifi connections allowing. Obvious I know nonetheless if you are housebound for any reason temporary or more permanent, can be a lifeline. Clearly there are many other benefits, getting easy up to date access to the news - if maybe that’s a negative, the weather, travel, emails, take photos, oh yes and being able to dial a number and speak to someone.

If you are old some people judge you as technologically deficient. If you say something is wrong with a smartphone, app or similar, their tone changes to that patronising ‘Dont worry dear, I’ll help youk at worst you see a rolling of the eyes. This old curmudgeon’s hackles immediately rise, but mange not to reply. ‘No, the f&+’8;g app is not working.’ I do a smug feeling to creep across me and a rolling of my eyes when proved right and come up with a workaround myself.

Smartphones are useful and necessary tools aiding our everyday life. They have changed the way we live. Banks are a thing of the past, I genuinely do not know where my nearest branch resides. Tick for me no more waiting in queues to bank a cheque. Online shopping on my smartphone saves me a fortune no more impulse buying. In India if you are missing tomatoes for the recipe you are already cooking you can order and be chopping them up within twenty minutes. I do believe Covid and lockdown increased the speed of change, maybe wrong, me never. A lot of the technology has been around for years but just kept in the back pockets of companies, to allow phased implementation and for us to have to change phones more often.

Here in the UK legislation is trundling through Parliament to ban smartphones use for pupils in schools. I am in favour of this ban, I worry about young people losing the ability to concentrate if they are continually thinking about their smartphones, as a start. There is also discussion of banning under 16s from social media. Thus I am not convinced by, firstly how do you enforce it effectively particularly for the 10 -15 yr old age group who a more than able to find loopholes. You may argue why start at 10, because they are bright and savvy too. Secondly, will this give social media companies a reason for lighter enforcement because ‘children and younger people won’t see the content.’

Before finishing I will briefly return to my last post and the ability to track others on mobile phones and put my pennyworth forward. This is an area that shows the good and bad sides of smartphones. I made a bold and simplistic statement. Tracking good for children and bad for adults. I do and do not agree with that statement. Firstly, yes I can understand a parent’s wish to know where exactly their children are at any given time, my conundrums is firstly - when 24 hours a day, at school, after-school, at home, on holiday the list is endless.

Secondly, until what age and could we become too reliant on tracking negating the need for children to take the responsibility to inform parents and others where they are? Should we be tracking teenagers? Or is it so common it's not an issue for 15 tonve tracked by their parents/carers. Children are technologically savvy now than ever before. Smartphones are better for tracking than air tags or similar equipment. Smartphones are superglued to their owner’s bodies/hands, air tags can be placed in other people’s pockets leaving the tracker under the misapprehension that the tracked are in a their French lesson, when in fact they have ducked down through the tennis courts and off to the pub on Archway Road, possibly even The Archway Tavern pictured above or more likely The Angel in Highgate Village - moi never.

Tracking adults can have its benefits for those maybe confused and easily get lost. However the downside is tracking, for example, adult children can become obsessive, not a problem with my son, he’d never talk to me again if I tracked him. I have a neighbour who continually checks her phone to see where her children and a grandchild are all day every day. If they are not in their right place she panics thinking the worst has happened getting incredibly anxious at least every couple of weeks. Yet they will not ring to find out why the individual is not in the right place. There are times however much you say ‘don't track them’ or try to come up a reasonable answer, they still get really stressed and anxious, until they havebfiund out the answer, which may not be until the following day or longer.

There are more sinister forms of tracking for both adults and children, in cases of domestic abuse and potentially others who may have sinister reasons for tracking individuals. Another serious debate for another time.

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I love my smartphone because [think of the top 3 reasons]

I don’t like my smartphone because [think of the top 3 reasons]

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Ok this week I am exceedingly late to the pass with a short post with no prompts as it is full of questions for you.

Delving into the BBC News website this morning I came across two very different articles on mobile phones, both highlighting, amongst other things, the ability to track people. Maybe if I had the tracking switched on my phone, someone could have seen I was being held hostage by the head rabbit 🐇 down his warren. Now that would be a better excuse than the dog ate my Substack post for being so late.

One reason for this being so short is that I am making no comment about the rights and wrongs of tracking. You real not be surprised to learn I have my own views. However, I would like to hear the views of others and if possible promote some discussion. If I can I will set up my chat 🤔.

Unsubstantiated comment for thought warning. It is good to track children and bad to track adults.

The first article I read - Parents want to ban smartphones in schools, but there’s one reason they’re worried, highlights the concern of parents that a ban on smart phones may result in them being unable to track their children.

1. At what age is the ability to track children on smartphones important? Leaving aside the ability to use other tracking devices.

2. What are the potential issues of tracking children & young people?

3. At what age does the cross over between good and bad tracking occur?

4. Is it ok to track adult children and grandchildren and are there potential problems, for the tracker or the tracked?

5. Are there any benefits in tracking adults?

The second article - I mocked the Saudi leader on YouTube - then my phone was hacked and I was beaten up in London highlights the extreme of a hacked phone being used to track, monitor and intimidate an individual by a state. I know it's an extreme but adds a further dimension in the discussion. I am not proposing any questions in response to this article. However, it sends a chill through my body for a number of reasons. This has nothing to do with conspiracy theories, just the ability of others, not just States, to hack our phones.

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What is it about tree stumps? This is the rotting remains of an apple tree in the communal garden. It is almost completely hollow, the wood worm are having parties, yet it produced apples until 2024. The summer heat and lack of water may have done for it finally in 2025, but we shall see if it springs into life this year. In the winter sunshine, frost and dusting of snow turned it into a beautiful sculpture. In the mist it can look menancing. In the summer, if a winter storm doesn't finally knock it over I'll get my painting head on.

Looking for inspiration to get my writing brain working again comes from strange places, such as this stump. I know I'm not saying anything most people already know. What I know about myself is that I have to take the time to really look at things like this tree stump, or listen to the birds, to benefit from the calmness. It may only 30 seconds, Humphrey is always close by wanting his ball thrown or hidden. Unfortunately the garden isn’t secure so I have to keep an eye on them. I promise myself time in the garden without either dog but those big, brown, doleful labrador eyes crack my willpower.

I realised it was getting late and hadn’t posted. I have a couple of more difficult topics planned that need time and thought. So this is a very short one.

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Take 60 seconds to just watch a tree stump, cloud, the rain or listen to the birds, traffic, airplanes, digs breathing. How did you find it? Did you think of anything else? Or just think whats the old curmudgeon on about.

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The road is closed, yet again. Not a great start to get new working week for many, and a pain for me. If I want to go to the farm shop I now have to drive an extra 10 miles, ok 2 really, along a single track road with a dip in the middle full of water, which is now ice, before getting to the main road.

I can hear a collective sigh - ‘that whingeing southern English curmudgeon knows nothing’. Even in the UK there have been areas with a few feet of snow completely trapping people in their homes, closing schools, causing power outages etc. Our smattering of snow is not enough to be even that pretty and certainly won't close schools. However, the freezing cold is an issue for the exceedingly old infrastructure, hence the burst water main turning the main street into an ice rink. I felt sorry for the workers digging it up at 10 pm in -6 degree temperatures and the road is now closed.

So why the usual whinges and moans about the weather and blocked roads? The sudden blocked road, the hibernating - because of the cold got me thinking about how uncertain life has become in the space of a month. Today is the start of a new school term, people returning to normal work after the loooooong break, New Year resolutions have been made, and already broken - not mine I didn’t make any. I was determined to start my 2026 Substack on a positive note, a fresh start, yet everything seems uncertain, with the world on edge. On what edge I have absolutely no idea but it doesn't feel safe. Ok I'm nearing the end of my allotted time. However I do care what happens to my son in the future and to the younger members of my family.

Europe feels squashed between two powers, or is it tyrants, who are totally out of control, only interested in their own personal gratification regardless of the cost to others, or even their own people. How have we got to the point where one country takes control of another country in a matter of days, almost without question? I am not commenting on the power struggles within Venezuela and the rights and wrongs within their country, that is not for me to say. However it is something that has the potential to affect the future. The US and global populations are being thrown into unknown territory and the international rule books torn up. We have Denmark telling the US not to invade Greenland and the wife of an American politician stirring it up - Danish PM tells Trump to Stop Threats Against Greenland. What excuse can the US find for invading Greenland? The main reason appears to be greed from where I am sitting.

What impact will the way our ‘leaders’ behave have on the behaviour of others. Is it ok to see something and take it without question? Nobody knows what will happen in Venezuela and the impacts on South America, the Caribbean and further afield. I don't know the answers but it worries me that we are in danger of losing of sense of right and wrong. The me, me, me society only helps the few, the powerful, the rich, the unscrupulous, including the drug cartels this latest move is supposed to eradicate. I don't want to go on a rant and I won’t. Can we start clawing, empathy, community, friendship, respect, care and patience back or are we headed for a precipice we cannot recover from? I strongly believe we can, but it could be a very long hard journey.

I will not be beaten nor will I give up in my belief of the essence of respect, integrity and goodness within people. However it is not always easy. I will leave you with Eric Idle.

I remember seeing this film at the Wood Green Odeon with John, the supporting film was Away From it All with John Cleese’s list of what the Romans have done for us. It's only 13 minutes and worth a watch until then end.

Copyright is Monty Python but they appear not to have continued it according to Jules Dingle Studio on YouTube.

Apologies for the rather sombre post but it got to me this morning. I am now going to watch ‘Away From It All’, remember my youth and may even invite the rabbits 🐇 in out of the cold….. Maybe not the house would not survive the chaos.

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What would you like to see change on a macro and micro level and why over the next year or decade? You can take those words to mean anything.

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I'm back, after a period being AWOL. I am going to be honest and say I have been the biggest Christmas curmudgeon you can ever imagine. For some reason this December and Christmas surpassed itself in the misery stakes. Don't get me wrong I had lovely presents & cards, great catch ups with friends during all of December enjoying them all, and am so grateful for having such great friends and family. Whatever you may think I am not after pity party commiserstions or similar. Except possibly when I get the bill for my poorly car, which has led to very short journeys and eyeing the warning light with trepidation until I can get it plugged in, adding to the feeling of doom. My misery was entirely self inflicted and hopefully will prove cathartic.

Why the misery? The obvious answer is missing the old noisy, chaotic Christmases with John, Sarah and George and whoever else was around. It is not being alone, that's normal for me and I have been savouring the peace of being a two dog rather than three dog household, as has Mildred - Bonnie is having a great time in her new home with her new best mate Paddy who is much nearer her own size. From Christmas Eve until this morning, Sunday, I only interacted with other humans over the phone or via texts and WhatsApp.

I think this year the reality has sunk in. My life has utterly changed, into something completely different, unplanned and unwanted. I know in my own company it is ok to not be ok, it is not ok to inflict my misery on others but it is ok to be miserable on my own.

It was not all misery I enjoyed opening my lovely pressies, cooking and my partridge with pears, mini Christmas pudding and various bits and pieces on Christmas Day. I enjoyed some of the TV, don’t ask me what, I can’t remember, there was nothing earth shattering. I am waiting for the right time to watch Kate Winslet’s Netflix film ‘Goodbye June’ in the New Year. I enjoyed the peace in the garden, watching the birds, hearing a little owl, watching the two pheasants who are squatting until the shooting season finishes and enjoy flying up in front of Humphrey.

Being bored is a great way of giving yourself a kick up the arse and hopefully that is something I can do. However much I tell others to look after themselves I am crap at it, but have pondered how to crawl out of my hobbit hole. The following have nothing to do with New Year resolutions, it is the result of sitting around in the doldrums for the last few weeks and I working out what I need to do:

1. To use my soft pastels and paint more.

2. I need to continue with my novel - pure escapism about 3 old women each with am element of me in them

3. To find somewhere to edit, refine and decide on the final structure of my memoir. The sanctuary of home is not the greatest place to write difficult stuff, something I will write about over the coming months.

4. Send out proposals to agents - I've nothing to lose

5. Decide whether to give myself the biggest kick up the backside, be kind to myself or a combination of the two.

6. Stop whining, procrastinating and write Substack every week, but not to beat myself up if I fail and make my it more interesting and entertaining for my readers and less wingeing.

7. Try to find fun and laughter in my life, without guilt - please don't take this as a criticism of anyone other than me! Including going to London more. I have a box of suggestions I wrote a couple of years ago, but have not opened.

8. Return to journaling, both for the ‘Artists Way’ and my sanity.

The riddle of Humphry’s manky tennis balls. I have mentioned that Humphrey is obsessed with his balls, the yellow ones hit by a racquet 🎾. They are spread around the garden and I leave three on a bench in case we lose one at the top of the communal garden. I place them neatly out of the way. The last few days they have been taken off the bench and spread around the grass. We have muntjac deer, 2 pheasants, squirrels, foxes, rabbits 🐇 and countless birds including jackdaws. I am intrigued to know the culprit and why. It may not be an earth shattering event just one that has puzzled me 😁.

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Think of a time over the last 6 months that really made you laugh, feel better or gave you a warm fuzzy feeling. Describe in two paragraphs that experience and the feeling it gave you.

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I have been looking out of my window at the damp scene over the valley following another wet and windy weekend, pondering yet again, same as last year. My writing mojo has been washed down the lane over the road and into the River Rib, along with the other unhealthy detritus the water leaves behind. The rabbits 🐇, foxes 🦊, badgers 🦡 and otters 🦦 are as much use as a chocolate teapot for inspiration. Then, lightbulb 💡 moment revisit to last year’s Christmas post, and do I feel any different about it all. I should add the otters 🦦 are some of the very few enjoying the weather here in the UK - enough of the emojis, please.

There are so many helpful articles, Instagrams, and Substacks on how to survive the Christmas period for families, what presents to buy, what to cook, and so it goes on. The perfect Christmas is everywhere, and every year, it seems to become bigger with pictures of wonderful festive tables creaking under the weight of inventive party food and stunning canapés, perfectly coiffured presents, and children looking sparkly clean and angelic in their best clothes. Just like my Christmases past … NOT.

I recommend reading one beautifully written and honest post from What If You Can’t Afford to Buy Presents? I spent many years advocating against child poverty and have always been aware of how tough Christmas can be. It is not only those in ‘poverty’ (discussion for another day), families up and down the country struggle with all the costs associated with the festive season that lasts a whole month and take until next year to pay off.

I remember the lavish Christmas Day and dinner from my childhood. They were like the Instagram pictures of today, all the perfect trimmings. Hands up I hated them, they were for show, to impress whoever was coming for Christmas. I realise that sounds ungrateful but looking back through the eyes of a child who had to be on best behaviour. I would have been happier being me and receiving cheap plastic horses to play with rather than a massive terrifying expensive white porcelain horse lamp stand from Harrods. There was little joy and laughter.

When our kids were young, our Christmases were never perfect. They were chaotic, noisy, full of the rubbish left after the present opening, and a kitchen looking like World War III had just finished, with cats and/or dogs in the middle of it all, often licking their lips. I ‘dressed’ the table, ready for our afternoon meal. However, it was virtually the same every year, just the crackers and napkins were different. There was always a candle with a plastic centre piece surround. It was never lit - too risky at our chaotic table, and now the 36 year red candle languishes somewhere in the loft.

I am not being judgemental about the type of Christmas people choose. I am just describing my experiences. Over the years they may have been chaotic, but I loved our family Christmases. Yet I know I spent far too much money and was lucky to be able to.

Looking back I have so many wonderful & happy memories of Christmases past, I don’t need Marley’s ghost to remind me. I remember traipsing, unsuccessfully, around shops to find the Care Bear Sarah desperately wanted, George aged three holding the little Christmas tree’s ‘hand’ so it wouldn’t get lonely, the stockings being thrown on our bed at 5 am, ripped opened and all the chocolate coins being devoured or finding one the following morning melted into our bed sheets. I remember Sarah and John ripping the wrapping paper before Auntie Sheila got hold of it to iron for next year. I remember the drunken snores from John in the evening, meaning I could watch Dr Who in peace without the usual sarky comments.

As the kids grew older, they would go to the pub with John. I would put the turkey in the oven, do the vegetables, forget the ham and then take Ledley, our golden labrador, for a peaceful walk. Bliss, there was never a sound, few planes, if any, and even the roads were quiet. There is an endless list of happy memories of chaotic, imperfect Christmases that Instagram would label how NOT to do Christmas.

I don’t regret a second of their imperfection. I am not trying to be a curmudgeonly old know it all ‘it was better in my day’, just making the point that it is often the happy chaos and accidents we remember rather than the coiffured presents or perfect table dressings.

More hands up I now find the Christmas season difficult reminding me that John and Sarah are no longer here. Sarah loved Christmas even though her and her husband had a duvet day on the day, it was with all the trimmings. John’s Victor Meldrew impression was evident every year. In homage to John and for a chuckle he are two of his favourite comedies combined.

Our last Christmas together was in 2018, the year John died and too weak to enter into the festivities. I cooked everything as usual and spent the day upstairs with him while the kids and their partners tried to ignore the reality of what was soon to come. John enjoyed listening to the noise of laughter, with a bit of bickering thrown in, rising from the living room into our bedroom. The kids took it in turns to spend precious time with their Dadster - the name Sarah called him -throughout the day. John died on the 30th of December 2018 with family all around him. Sarah had her stroke at the end of January 2021. If Boris Johnson had been so incompetent maybe I could have hugged my daughter that Christmas rather than seeing her on a screen. We had it all planned until we were locked down again at the last moment.

Now, Christmas for me is about the memories of Christmas past. I have made the decision to be on my own for the day. I know George has found it hard to understand, I want him to do Christmas with his girlfriend in their home their way, it may sound selfish, but Christmas for me is no longer the celebration it used to be and is painful. It is difficult to explain. I am now what some may describe as a miserable old curmudgeon who puts the dampers on Christmas for others because I don’t want to enter into the festivities.

However, bare/bear with me while I explain. I am the exact opposite. We should all be allowed to spend Christmas our way.

Christmas is a time for families of all shapes and sizes to get together. Having lost 50% of my family with the deaths of John in 2018 and Sarah, my daughter, in 2021, for me, it is a time to remember, not celebrate family. I don’t want to put a fake smile on my face to convince others I am enjoying myself. I don’t look forward to Christmas anymore, and why should I? I will admit I enjoy the crap Christmas movies and watch The Holiday every year. I love the Christmas specials of my favourite programmes and will watch them with the dogs.

Unlike Mother’s Day, Father’s Day & Valentine’s Day, we cannot just tick a box to stop emails from popping into our inboxes. We have no choice but to engage with Christmas, I engage with it my way and am totally at peace with the decisions I make. Watching families enjoying the festivities can be the most lonely and isolating experience when it is something that death has ripped away from you. My Christmas now is accepting my life as it.

There are many positives catching up with friends, my bank balance is healthier than in Christmas past, that really sounds Scrooge like, however I'm being honest. I won’t waste money on Christmas cards or stamps but I do donate a similar amount to the National Brain Appeal at the National Hospital for Neurology and Neurosurgery in memory of Sarah.

Please bear in mind that for many, that the Christmas bonhomie and celebrations reinforce the feelings of isolation, loneliness and deep-rooted sadness that many experience on a daily basis. There is no Christmas, nor everyday, magic wand to make everybody happy. We will never know, nor be able to solve, what goes on for others we come across in our daily lives, but we can be mindful all year not just at Christmas.

I am grateful. I have many friends. I have family. I have the dogs. I can enjoy my Christmas Day on my own revelling in my wonderful memories of Christmas past, with the odd tear or 100, I may even stuff my face with bits and pieces and I am comfortable with that position.

So says the Old Curmudgeon with tinsel on her hat.

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I have been writing my eclectic rubbish down the rabbit 🐇 warren for three years now. At the beginning I gave myself three months and started my first post with:

I am going to start this newsletter, with determination, avoiding procrastination and learning along the way. BUT my rapidly diminishing little grey cells are getting in my way. They now cannot cope with my old f&rt attitude of jump straight in with both feet, before reading the instructions. (Jo Linney, November 2022)

My sense of humour hasn't changed, my posts are now longer, sometimes, and having gone from 1 subscriber (who was me) to 502 - I went over the 500 this weekend. In the grand scale of some Substacks that is a meagre number, yet I am so chuffed, grateful and dare I say proud to have over 500.

I am very grateful to every single one of my subscribers and followers. My only regret with Substack is that I can’t hold a massive party and invite every single one of you to a big knees up.

Substack helped me find a new path, writing through these posts thank you for introducing me to Substack and journaling - thank you for your wonderful insights into journaling and your wonderful retreats. You have both helped and are still helping me keep traveling this writing road. There is no way I could have called myself a writer without you and everyone on Substack, both subscribers and other writers.

One of the down side of growing old is that you lose more and more people you love and cherish as the years progress and your identity changes in different often unexpected ways. These losses can happen at anytime but as grow old the number grows. Substack has helped me accommodate those losses and hopefully I have helped others to know it's ok to not be ok and grief, of all descriptions is difficult, but necessary beast to live alongside and manage. Identity is something we should not panic about, a lesson you definitely learn as you grow old, at its most basic it changes everyday and with different people. A subject for a later post Jean Paul Sarte and co may crop up.

What have I learnt over the last three years? Many things including not to fall up concrete garden steps it hurts, as does the insertion of the metal plate. Mostly I have learnt old dogs can learn new tricks, whatever we are told. There are many brilliant older writers confirming the point providing wonderful advice on aging in different ways - (now the award winning substacker), , , and many many more. I have ventured into the subject a couple of times such as my post on Ageing and Education. We can carry on learning as we age.

Substack has changed over the last three years. It has grown massively, no I don't have any statistics and the head rabbit 🐇 has slammed the door in my face. There are more experienced and well known writers from diverse walks of life publishing regularly here, it is a more crowded space. That is a good thing, maybe more difficult for the smaller writers, like me to break in, but there are such a diverse range of great writers here. A list of some are given at the end of this post.

The changes on Substack are both positive and negative. On the positive from my keyboard I have met some wonderful people in person and online, from all over the world, from many backgrounds and with different histories. Substack is still a place to develop a community even with its growth. Substack is the only place that provides free access to such a diverse audience. Countless writers who like me could never hope to gain to subscribers interested in our work on other platforms. The algorithms mean I don't get bombarded with stuff I don't want to read, ok with the occasional blip - generally it works.

On the negative I do wish those men who believe I write on Substack to find ‘love’ and the scammers who think I am stupid enough to believe Keanu Reeves, Paul Hollywood or a NATO General would subscribe to my Substack would do one. Substack do seem better at filtering the scammers out and the report system works. The first category are just plain stupid and seem to believe that telling me my writing speaks to them, they think god is the answer to all my problems, I am not knocking religion in anyway just don't make assumptions, or such rubbish will get a response. Yes it does an immediate block. The second category is troubling and indicates bots that just seek out certain profiles on Substack. Thinking about some of the first category may well be bots too. Another negative of Substack is unfortunate with the amount of great writers on here. It is social media and can be as big a time waster as other forms.

One other negative is Algernon, my inner critic, he can really do overtime with me on some of my posts ‘you write rubbish, take this post pretending you are a writer what codswallop, what ever made you think you could write, look at all the mistakes you make.’ Substack has definitely helped me kick him, his homburg hat and ebony cans hard up the arse and into the corner Nonetheless he always creeps back into my shoulder twittering in my ear.

Here is my list of just a few Substacks

an escapee from The Observer whose advice is clear and backed up by her expertise, a relatively knew journalist here. There are the Substack ‘leaders’, , , who is an inspiration and provides so much advice on developing Substack and many others.

There are the countless authors who provide advice on writing , , , , and many others. Then there are writers who views and writing I both life and value and so many others, my grey cells cannot cope with remembering everyone. There are specialist writers knitting, gardening, cooking, you can find expert advice on most things. I wish I could afford paid subscriptions for all of them. Journalist

I make no apologies for a gushing post this week. The old curmudgeon needed to turn on the I'm really a nice person switch.

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Christmas is coming alongside the pressure to deliver the perfection. I will put my hands up and say I am a Christmas curmudgeon now. Although, I felt the pressures of Christmas for years, until I realised our Christmas never going be perfection they were noisy, messy and chaotic but fun.

The lack of perfection in my life does lead me onto the point of this post, life being messy, something I have learnt as I grow old. Christmas is the classic example highlighting my points. At this time of year the pressure builds, your browsing and TV - I'm old I still watch terrestrial TV - is interrupted with images of the must have food, party clothes etc. You are bombarded with advice to start planning your food, your presents, your Christmas tree in August. Children are bombarded with the must have Christmas items clothes, toys, trips out - the most expensive of course. Who should you invite and when? Not Auntie Agnes with Aunt Mable because they fell out fifty years ago over the bone china tea service Granny left. Cousin Hugo had an affair with Frankie and is now married to Sally so you mustn’t ask cousin Albert and Frankie with them and so it goes on.

Real life Christmases are not the perfect AI or social media picture. We are messy, in my case literally and metaphorically. Planning goes so far but has its draw backs, firstly it can be stressful when you work full time, have 1/2/3/10 children of any ages. There myriad of other things to plan not just at Christmas. As I am retired with time on my hands logic says I should plan, cook, prepare and deliver the perfect Christmas. I know the history of Hugo and Frankie’s affair and how Auntie Agnes let Aunt Mable have the tea service only after she’s smashed every tea cup. I am sure I am not alone in saying I do not have the energy for Christmas anymore, nor does it hold the excitement of being or having children/grandchildren. As an old curmudgeon I remember the mess it leaves behind, the paper, broken toys, weeks of left over turkey, the hangovers and the financial mess it can create for the rest of the year. I loved Christmas, but that is past now.

Before I move on from Christmas a genuine question for any men reading this post. Do you feel the same pressures around Christmas?

I got sidetracked by Christmas because the rabbit 🐇 dragged me down that warren with the offer of mulled wine, unfortunately the dirty carrot ruined the taste.

Life has the potential to be messy all year and across our lives at any stage, mainly because life is unpredictable. Planning is a positive activity unless the plans and the perception of perfection becomes all encompassing. Death is the prime example, we never know when it may happen to us or to those we love. Even though it is a certainty, we all die and will all experience the death, or loss of someone we love. Yet we do not have death dates.

I believe 100% in planning for those left behind in relation to the practicalities and talking about death, see my post Talking About Death. I cannot plan for the emotions and fall out those I love will experience with my death. The resulting grief is extremely messy, with no fixed trajectory and we all experience grief in our own way. The resulting changes in your life following a death are unpredictable and sometimes traumatic.

The biggest recent example of life being messy is the COVID lockdowns with its global impacts. Sometimes it feels it happened around the time Auntie Agnes smashed the tea cups, yet it was only 4 years ago. All our lives have been changed and impacted by that period in so many different ways, good and bad. Children still suffer the fall out from disrupted education, the reliance on screens for social interaction, struggling with communication and the ability to look each other in the eye and talk. The easy access to social media content often created the impression of everyone else’s perfect worlds. Social media portrays the world behind filters. The young girl with every blemish filtered out and cheek bones manipulated. The perfect picture of the creaking dinner table full of beautifully cooked food doesn't show the state of the kitchen or the mound of smashed cardboard under the table used to transport the food or the smell of the rotting meat. A bit if literary licence there, but you get the drift.

We are all affected by those pictures of perfection, or pictures that portray our perception of perfection. I know some of you maybe saying not me I can't stand those pictures of pumped up old faces without a wrinkle, I don't want a luxury cruise, the latest fashion. I prefer the pictures of people like Helen Mirren and think she’s aged so well and wish I had. Helen Mirren has all the money she needs to buy all the creams, take breaks on luxurious holidays, buy the best spa membership, pay for the help to reduce stress, staff to do the cleaning etc. Please don't think I am knocking her, I would do exactly the same, she says with green eyes. I admire her, and Judi Dench but understand their lives allow then certain luxuries. But I bet their lives can be messy - possibly not as literally as mine. We all have ideals, ifvee are honest with ourselves.

What is the point of all this rambling? Life is messy because life gets in the way. The perfect Christmas table is perfect until you see the dog running away down the garden with the turkey leaving devastation on the perfect table. The perfect family dinner is perfect until the older teenage sister presses her younger brother’s button because she is bored and world war 3 breaks out. The perfect living room is perfect until the 9 month old labrador puppy gets gastroenteritis and does a Freddie Kruger impression across the whole floor with blood and you know what.

Planning is a good thing but you never be too rigid in your plans, anything can happen to divert your route. Don't believe people who tell you their family is perfect. If their home looks something straight out of Homes & Gardens, they may have help, rubbish is stuffed in the shed or at the end if the day on their own the admit they are exhausted. If they never have a hair out of place they maybe using super glue or have an invisible helper. I am no different to anyone else and can be seduced by the portrayal of perfection and get frustrated that everything about me is messy from my looks & home, to my planning and if I'm honest to my life in general. Remember the old saying if it looks too good.. applies to many areas of our lives.

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They say you cannot teach an old dog new tricks and as you grow old you become more entrenched in your views. If I am honest there is some truth in both those statements. At 67 years old I will not become a ballerina but that is because I am shrinking, I must be just at 5ft or just below with no legs just stumps, I started at 5ft 11/2 inches. I will never change my political leanings however life experience can effect our views. Aging had taught me to listen more openly to others views even if I do not necessarily agree. I may even change after a good discussion. I do wish I had the fire in my belly I used to have, I do feel it silently crackling but will often stay quiet, ok not often.

Where am I going with this weeks rabbit 🐇 warren? When I started thinking about change I thought if three questions. 1) Can I change? 2) What would I change? 3) Why would I change?

I'll start at number one, unusually organised for me. Can I change? Of course I can. I change all the time - retirement, widowhood, writing, increased anxiety, living alone, moving house - all of these are changes that affect me and change me. If I didn't change I wouldn't be here now. Some changes are forced on me and results in the sink or swim effect. Some changes are my choice such as writing and moving. These choices changed me too.

Moving is a good example. My way of life is very different to the one I would have had if I had remained where I was or moved into another area. I live a quieter life, one where I can be an eccentric old curmudgeon if I want to. I do wonder what the village think of me. I hope you get my gist in that garbled paragraph.

Secondly what would I change? I would add three inches onto my legs and win the Lottery, ok I am definitely going down the things you cannot change. What could I change maybe be a better question. I would like to be more organised - I do try - it is Monday and it looks like my Substack is going to be posted on the right day ✔️. Slight problem - it is unlikely to last. It has nothing to do with growing old I have always been disorganised, it’s the way my brain doesn't work. I haven't got any worse or any better with age. I want to be an organised writer. I want to sit at my desk with a candle gently flickering and smelling lovely - down to me - Operation Winter Project 2025, I'll let you know my progress.

Lastly, why change? One big difference as you age is why and for whom you change. A double edged sword this one. I wonder if the perception that older people aren't willing to change comes not only from other also from within us. Let me explain what I mean. As I grow older the changes I make are considered and often bound by experience, I can still be impulsive but with thought. As we grow older we consider change, we no longer see the point in change for changes sake. Are we conditioned not to believe we can change? In the reverse people can consider older people should change because they are old, why?

Yes, I enjoy discovering new technology, however, there are certain forms, TikTok for example I have no interest in pursuing. Not because I don't like change, I don't like TikTok and I don't have to use TikTok. I can chose not to use TikTok. Then there are changes where I have no choice. I am intrigued by AI, frustrated, yes it scares me. Not because I am old and stuck in my ways. I think through the changes. The positive ones - medical advancement, helping people with memory issues, replacing humans in dangerous unsafe jobs. Negative - the loss of our own independent thinking to solve problems and potentially creativity, massive and frightening implications - giving power to the few, advances in technology to kill people. I see both sides of the argument. I have, we all have been using AI for years, spell check etc. I know I cannot always chose where AI plays a part in my life but I should at least be able consider the implications without being accused of being old and unwilling to accept change.

On the reverse - why change for others? A big philosophical existential debate about being authentic, no I’ll leave that debate for another day. However on a more pragmatic level, I do not want to and will not go to certain groups because I have grey hair, a certain number of years under my belt and others decide it is my time. I know there are things where change is sensible to stop others worrying. Being more careful going up steps, being more careful generally and thinking about risks. No way would I now take Mildred and Humphrey out together on the lead. I now keep my phone on me when I am out even in the garden after falling and breaking my arm I know is sensible for my safety. That is a change for me I have to accept that with age my body is frailer, my minor balance problems can now cause more problems.

When I started this post I did a quick search and quickly ran out of the rabbit 🐇 warren after findjng this article ‘What Causes Agression in Elders?’, thinking that's a very negative viewpoint. Then I realised no it isn't for some the reality of growing old can have serious consequences that are not made by choice our bodies letting us down, loneliness, or dementia. I don't mean to end of a negative we need to remember growing old in itself is no reason not to change, yet should remember it is not easy for us all.

If you have made sense of this rambling mish mash of thought congratulations you have developed the ability to break through the unpenetrable Linney thought processes.

Remember age us not a barrier to change whatever age you are.

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Monday’s post did not emerge because a) no idea permeated my brain on Sunday b) I had no time or Monday to stir the cobwebs and c) … can't think of an other excuse. So why I am subjecting you to another Linney scribble today? Two reasons, not showing up is far to easy and means I am wasting yet more time procrastinating and beating myself up for notublishing.

Secondly, I did the squibble above at my regular art group yesterday, Tuesday. A group I am so grateful to and who are so good at making me feel a warm glow about my paintings with all their lively comments at the end. I regard them all as true friends, and the cake is so delicious every week. Back in track, reading our helpful emailed instructions from Jane our wonderful tutor (I know this all sounds very gushing but I mean every word), the penny dropped that I had not used my ‘good’ pastels for over 2 years, and I miss painting more often. I therefore rummaged arround and took my pastels to the group and am so glad I did.

I love writing, don't get me wrong, yet there is nothing like putting, pastel, crayon, pencil or brush to paper or canvas to completely lose yourself in the moment. Writing is absorbing, however, particularly editing memoir has pitfalls. The type I fall into with Algernon, my inner critic bringing him close enough to beat me about the head violently with his ebony cane. However, much I dislike the end result of my painting endeavours, during production there is no room in my brain for Algernon, and if I hate the end result it enters the bin, alongside Algernon, cane, homburg and yellow silk cravat and all.

Tuesday’s art group made me realise two things, firstly, as I have already said I miss my drawing with my pastels. I would love to get my oils out but unfortunately do not have the space with three dogs, mediums, oil paints and brush cleaners and them are not a good combination. Secondly, for me artistically, as someone who enjoys landscape, Autumn is my favourite month. The colours around here have not been brilliant this year. The trees have become confused by the weather and many leaves are still green. The colourful ones have been ripped off their branches by the wind. I felt a tiny bit cheated, yet looking for leaves to take to the art group showed how beautiful the colours of individual leaves are still, even lying on the ground.

One day I will get organised, plan my Substacks a couple of weeks in advance and press the publish on..… button. Then again a punk 🐇 with a curly tail has just flown past the window.

At least I have published a post this week and kept true to myself, but must dash the dogs need *fill in the blank* and my iPad needs charging.

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